We’ve chosen not to have children of our own, but would we date a man with kids? Becoming a step-parent is no joke—it’s a lot of responsibility, often with very little credit, and you’ll rarely, if ever, be the priority in your partner’s life. All of that goes double if the kids in question are under age 10, too. There’s a special place in heaven for people willing to take that on, but at this point, it ain’t gonna be us.

Dating someone who has kids [1:47]

Being a step-parent is rough [4:57]

A different level of responsibility [7:48]

Looking for red flags [11:07]

What’s Danny’s type now? [15:19]

Have older men given up? [19:26]

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We’ve been friends for a decade now and we’re not at all the same people we were when we met. Luckily, we’ve grown together, but not every friendship is so lucky. Sometimes we travel in an entirely different direction from our loved ones and it makes maintaining a relationship tricky, and sometimes that growing apart leads to a friendship breakup. Whether you slowly go ghost or have “the talk” is ultimately up to you, but we always advocate for leaving things open—you’ve grown apart now, but you could always grow back together in the future.

Hyrox and leaving Vegas [2:06]

Outgrowing a friend [10:16]

Letting the friendship fade away slowly [12:44]

People change over time [15:26]

Asymmetrical friendships [16:57]

Be ready to let the chips fall [20:26]

Let the friendship evolve [24:40]

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When’s the last time you looked into your cringe archive? Everyone who has a personal brand has to go through some less than perfect posts before they get better—it’s a rite of passage. Too many people quit before they even begin because they’re too embarrassed to be seen posting something “cringe,” but you have to be willing to be cringe if you want to be seen and to make a difference. We’ve all been cringe at one point or another… Hell, we’re *still* cringe, but we show up and share our lives, and that’s what really matters to us.

Danny J’s name change [0:56]

A marriage mishap [5:33]

Your cringe archive [9:13]

Cringe just keeps happening [12:16]

The phone followed us everywhere in 2017 [13:24]

Cringe is most cringe-worthy to ourselves [17:12]

You have to start in order to get better [19:50]

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Have you ever seen a course being sold by someone who teaches you how to sell courses about building courses? We love the internet business space and we think there’s so much good shit out there you can learn, but unfortunately for as many honest and hard working entrepreneurs there are, there are even more scammers, grifters, and snake oil salespeople. Sure, you can make a great living online, but it’s never been as simple as just “make a course and then sell tons of units,” as much as we’d like it to be. Selling courses, building an online business, and developing a personal brand is tough work, and anyone who tells you otherwise is lying. Or trying to sell you something. Most likely, they’re lying in order to sell you something.

Selling courses about selling courses [3:49]

If it was that simple, everyone would do it [6:50]

It lacks integrity [10:22]

A course on how to make money on OnlyFans [12:22]

Not everyone can have the same level of success [15:14]

We attract who we are [18:29]

The beginnings of a pyramid scheme [21:02]

Do the ends always justify the means? [23:54]

What worked for you won’t always work for me [26:44]

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We know pretty-privilege exists, but is there another layer we haven’t been paying attention to? Some studies show that women who wear makeup make more money than their female counterparts that don’t. We’ve definitely noticed how much better people treat us when we look good—we do still live in a patriarchal society, after all—but is it worth it to start investing more money into your Sephora budget in order to get a raise at work? Whether it’s a case of feeling confident and therefore performing better, or just a case of good ol’ misogyny, this doesn’t feel like something we should ignore.

Women who wear makeup are paid more [3:28]

Grooming vs. pretty-privilege [6:49]

Doing better when you look better [8:17]

Are people putting more effort into their looks? [11:01]

Everything is “viral” now [14:51]

Looksmaxxing, softmaxxing, and hardmaxxing [15:58]

Average is attractive [18:09]

The difference teeth make [19:36]

The energy component [21:37]

Looks in business [25:06]

Unfortunately, the patriarchy still reigns [28:43]

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Look, we’re not into asking permission from our partners to do anything, but there’s something to be said about being mindful of how they feel. Your partner’s feelings should (hopefully!) matter as much as your own, and if you can make them feel loved and cared about, why wouldn’t you? All that said, let’s get one thing straight: no man will ever stop us from doing what we want due to their insecurity.

Asking your partner for permission to do something [3:01]

Feeling some type of way [6:25]

What’s the compromise? [9:13]

Consideration without concessions [11:24]

What is mine? vs. what is yours? [14:13]

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Not all men are evil monsters, but whenever we have a troll insulting our age or appearance… well, it’s always a man. Maybe it’s just because we have such incredible men in our lives, but it seems like the men of the internet are always bitter and rude, and it’s kind of breaking our hearts. We want to believe the best in men, but they’re making it really hard. The way we see it, there are only two options moving forward: we need to hold men to a higher standard, or we all need to become lesbians.

The contrast in quality of men [4:13]

We’re living in completely different worlds [7:59]

Audacity in anonymity [10:25]

Why is liking women considered “un-masculine”? [15:09]

We need more (public) accountability [18:00]

Holding a higher standard [22:48]

Look out for the good men [24:55]

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As we get older, we find ourselves looking back on our happiest memories and noticing that what makes them happy isn’t what we’re doing, but the people we’re with. Life can get monotonous, bogged down with the million-and-one little things we have to do to keep our lives running. That’s why it’s so important to keep in touch with loved ones—because without a community to share them with, our lives could pass us by. So we’re grateful for you, Bestie, and everyone else in our lives who make an effort to care about us, too, no matter how much time passes or how far away we get.

Showing up for your people matters [1:23]

Build your own community [5:22]

Finding the bright spots in your own life [7:48]

Make an effort to stay connected [12:58]

Getting discerning about friendships [19:34]

Way less fucks to give [26:19]

Let people be there for you [28:44]

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