If Only I'd Known!

How to Outsmart Narcissists, Set Guilt-Free Boundaries, and Create Unshakeable Self-Worth

By: Chelsey Brooke Cole

Narrated by: Chelsey Brooke Cole

This therapist-written and recommended 3-part audiobook will help you understand the inner workings of a narcissist, heal from narcissistic abuse, and experience sustainable post-traumatic growth.

In relationships, have you ever found yourself:

• Feeling like something is "off," but not being able to explain why?

• Leaving conversations feeling more confused than when you started them?

• Constantly ruminating on how to "make sense" of what you feel and what's happening?

• Feeling "not enough" no matter how hard you try?

Narcissistic abuse creates a tidal wave of confusion, hypervigilance, and overthinking. You have trouble thinking clearly, remembering things, or taking in new information.

And because these changes are happening to you, you begin to wonder:

What's wrong with me?

Why can't I make this relationship work?

Am I fundamentally broken?

And that's exactly how narcissistic abuse works—it happens so subtly that you believe the insecurities you're experiencing are "you" instead of "what's happening" to you.

You think there's something wrong with you.

You think you need to change or get better.

You think no one else understands.

Narcissistic abuse is a multilayered attack on your sense of self—a dismantling of who you are and what you believe you're worth.

This audiobook covers unique information related to narcissistic abuse, including:

• How different narcissistic types love bomb

• Cognitive, emotional, behavioral, and physiological warning signs that you're being abused

• How and why narcissistic trauma bonds form and the process to untangle yourself from these binding relationships

• How to set boundaries even if you're highly empathic

• The most common reasons you stay stuck and how to get "unstuck"

If you've ever wondered:

• How did I get into this relationship?

• I'm such a people pleaser—how can I set better boundaries?

• What if healing isn't possible for me?

• I feel so lost and broken—where do I even start?

This audiobook is for you!

©2023 Chelsey Brooke Cole, LPC-MHSP, CPTT, RPT (P)2023 Chelsey Brooke Cole, LPC-MHSP, CPTT, RPT

Fantastic Book!

What a fantastic book. It felt so good to be affirmed and put an explanation to the years of emotional and psychological abuse that I endured. I highly recommend!

Very informative

It was very thorough and detailed. It gives practical guidance and reassurance that the abused is not crazy

Thank You So Much!

This book was exactly what I needed! Thank you so much! I so grateful! I am going to order the hard copy, too. The book is one of the best books on healing from narcissistic abuse. I absolutely recommend 👌. I am glad the author was the narrator. I felt the compassion and sincerity in her voice. I plan to use the tips to heal myself from the nightmare of my marriage to a narcissist.

mind blown

we have learned more about the Pilgrims in life than we do about narcissists and narcissists have had a massive impact on my life whereas pilgrims have not. this book should be required reading for everyone on the planet. for me it has been the instruction manual to my life. finally it all makes sense. read this and change your life.

This book could have saved decades of my life

I wish I would have read this book decades ago; it could have saved decades of my life. I missed all of the warning signs. Chelsey's book has really helped my heart heal, helped me feel not so alone, and know that this too shall pass. One thing really struck me when she said don't give him any space in your head. That's exactly what I needed to hear! I immediately stopped giving him any space in my head because he never deserved to be there in the first place. My mind is clear, and my thoughts are surrounding healing and self-care. Thank you for writing this AMAZING book and for speaking up for Women that are married to abusive narcissists.

Now that I know better, I can be better, and do better.