Rejected, Shamed, and Blamed

Help and Hope for Adults in the Family Scapegoat Role

By: Rebecca C. Mandeville MFT

Narrated by: Patricia Burgos

Family scapegoating is an insidious form of "invisible" abuse that is difficult to recognize. It is therefore critical that adult survivors of dysfunctional or narcissistic family systems understand what type of abuse they are trying to recover from. In Rejected, Shamed, and Blamed, licensed psychotherapist and family systems expert Rebecca C. Mandeville uses her research findings on what she named "Family Scapegoating Abuse" (FSA) to help survivors recognize and release the damaging "scapegoat" narrative associated with the family "identified patient" role. This second revision includes additional recovery suggestions, and updated resources.

In this book you'll discover:

● How to recognize and identify family scapegoating abuse (FSA) signs and symptoms

● Why scapegoated individuals have difficulty recognizing they are being abused

● How complex trauma (C-PTSD), betrayal trauma, and toxic shame impede FSA recovery

● Strategies to reduce fawn/submit behaviors and realign with your "true self"

● Recommended resources and therapy modalities for FSA recovery

©2020 Rebecca C. Mandeville, LMFT (P)2020 Tantor Media

Finally seen and understood

Excellent introduction and overview of something 5 therapists missed over the past 30 years. It’s not just me overreacting and it’s not just the narcissist in my family. It’s everyone participating in a family mobbing. I feel intense relief and now know what I need to get the help no one has given me.

Discovered FSA at 57

Whenever I tried to tell certain stories about what happened to me as a child, they felt almost impossible to share—simply because they sounded unbelievable. That silence stayed with me for years.

This book showed me two powerful truths: first, that I am not alone; and second, that I have much to recover from. Naming it doesn’t erase the pain, but it finally makes healing possible.

It’s all true!

Excellent book, giving the reader a greater understanding of why families are so dysfunctional when family members don’t take responsibility for their actions.

100% FINALLY AN EXPLANATION

WOW This is so helpful She’s got the solution I’m looking forward to bringing this to my therapist!!