Love Me, Don't Leave Me

Overcoming Fear of Abandonment and Building Lasting, Loving Relationships

By: Michelle Skeen PsyD

Narrated by: Karyn O'Bryant

Everyone thrives on love, comfort, and the safety of family, friends, and community. But if you are denied these basic comforts early in life through a lack of physical affection or emotional bonding, you may develop intense fears of abandonment that can last well into adulthood - fears so powerful that they can actually cause you to push people away. If you suffer from fears of abandonment, you may have underlying feelings of anger, shame, fear, anxiety, depression, and grief. These emotions are intense and painful, and when they surface they can lead to a number of negative behaviors, such as jealousy, clinging, and emotional blackmail.

In Love Me, Don't Leave Me, therapist Michelle Skeen combines acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT), schema therapy, and dialectical behavioral therapy (DBT) to help you identify the root of your fears. In this book you'll learn how schema coping behaviors - deeply entrenched and automatic behaviors rooted in childhood experiences and fears - can take over and cause you to inadvertently sabotage your relationships. By recognizing these coping behaviors and understanding their cause, you will gain powerful insights not only into your own mind but also into the minds of those around you.

©2014 Michelle Skeen (P)2016 Tantor

Critic reviews

"[Skeen's] writing is concise and wonderfully clear, with many excellent exercises to give the reader the opportunity to make actual positive changes." (Randi Gunther, author of Relationship Saboteurs)

Good source of insight

Gives insight in different touch and theirs definitely some I agree and need to work on to improve

Wow

Now I’m starting to understand patterns I’ve shown in relationships & why I get into the same situations. good read &want to research more

Very Relatable & Educational

Thank you for a very relatable and educational read! It was also very enlightening with lots of information that I hadn’t been aware of until this book.🤗

Wonderful guide

This book is amazing. Has lots of evaluations. The best thing is she gets to the root of what might be happening to you so you can understand why you are reacting the way you are. She gives you help literally and tells you how to recognize that you’ve been triggered and how to deal with it. How to recognize it and formulate new coping mechanisms. I’m buying this in paperback too.

resonating

So much information i was/am needing. Giving me knowledge to support the difficult decisions i need to make and stop putting off.
I will read this book many times over.