So Gay for You

Friendship, Found Family, and the Show That Started It All

By: Kate Moennig, Leisha Hailey

Narrated by: Kate Moennig, Leisha Hailey

*AN INSTANT NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER*

An intimate, hilarious memoir of art, friendship, queerness, and found family, written and read by Kate Moennig and Leisha Hailey, stars of The L Word—including never-before-shared stories from behind the scenes of the show and their personal lives. This program includes an exclusive bonus Q&A with fans' questions.

"Are you comfortable with nudity?" my manager asked.

In the early 2000s, Kate Moennig and Leisha Hailey—both young artists trying to figure it all out—met at auditions for an unknown little TV show. Given that it was a show about lesbians living in Los Angeles, with the first ever ensemble cast of openly queer female characters, Kate and Leisha knew the project was going to be unlike anything else out there—that is, if it even got picked up.

Then, one million people watched the premiere. The show, which came to be called The L Word, turned into a trailblazing phenomenon. Its influence on pop culture, in the political arena, and in the lives of viewers has been lasting, impactful, even life-saving. And in addition to changing the course of television history, The L Word changed Kate and Leisha's lives forever.

From their first day on set, Kate and Leisha have always had each other’s backs, inseparable to the degree that the cast joked they were like a pair of pants—you couldn't have one leg without the other. Hence the name for their branded partnership, PANTS, launched in 2020, and accompanying podcast, which has been downloaded over twenty million times.

This friendship has seen Kate and Leisha through their greatest triumphs and most painful moments, stumbling from closeted queer kids in a hostile culture, to LGBTQ+ activists, actors, podcasters, and business owners. Full of never-before-shared glimpses into the making of The L Word, Kate and Leisha's real-life loves and losses, and their experience as queer icons, So Gay for You is a heartfelt, inspiring love letter to a ride or die friendship over the decades, and a testament to the liberating power of chosen family.

A Macmillan Audio production from St. Martin’s Press.

Fantastic!!!

Loved every minute of it! It is a beautiful testimony to your friendship! Thank you!

Live, Love, Laugh with Kate and Leisha

I was reading my hardback copy of the book and loving it. It’s an alternative format, meaning Leisha wrote a chapter and then Kate wrote a chapter. As I read it, I could hear their voices in my head, loud and clear. Before I was finished with the hardback, I purchased the audiobook. The hardcover has some great photos, so that’s a bonus.

Listening to the audiobook feels more personal, like you’re sitting in the room with them whilst they tell you stories about their lives. No Spoilers! ;)

The only thing that would have made it better would have been for Leisha to add a song or two for the audio version. I was a fan of Leisha’s band, “The Murmurs”, before “The L Word”, and “Uh Huh Her” later. Having a song or two from that time would have been amazing! But, no complaints.

True story of found family and friendship!

truly, I have no words to describe this book. It was so nice to hear about their upbringing and the adventure of life that brought them together as the perfect pair of pants! highly recommend a listen as well as a physical copy to see all the photos!

Love Leisha & Kate!

I was laughing and curious while listening. I loved the L Word! Watched it many times!

Felt like a sit down

Felt like old friends sitting down to have a chat. Very enjoyable. Felt like I knew them