End Emotional Outsourcing

How to Overcome Your Codependent, Perfectionist, People-Pleasing Habits and Reclaim Your Life

By: Beatriz Victoria Albina NP MPH SEP NP MPH SEP

Narrated by: Beatriz Victoria Albina NP MPH SEP NP MPH SEP

From a certified somatic life coach, a feminist guide to reclaiming your self-worth and having healthier relationships—perfect for readers of Burnout and The Body Is Not an Apology.

Do you say “yes” when you mean “no”? Do you end up in lopsided relationships, feeling resentful but not sure how to speak up? Do you feel anxious, struggle with perfectionism and imposter syndrome, or feel like you’ve lost touch with your true self? You’re not alone: Thousands of people, especially those of us socialized as women, struggle with Emotional Outsourcing—a term nurse practitioner and life coach María Victoria Albina coined to describe the codependent habits that keep us stuck.

In End Emotional Outsourcing, Albina explores the origins—both personal and systemic—of these tendencies, and coaches readers through a science-backed program of thought work and somatic practices. Readers will learn to:

·Regulate their nervous systems
·Reframe their habitual thoughts and actions
·Take back their time and energy
·Improve relationships with parents, friends, and partners
·Discover their inherent self-worth and lovability

Groundbreaking, healing, and urgent, End Emotional Outsourcing is poised to change the conversation about codependency, and help an entire generation of women step into their power.

I’ll follow her forever!!

Love everything about this book and about the author. I’ve followed her since the beginning of her podcast and try to implement her teachings in my daily life. She is phenomenal!! Thank you dear lady for creating this book and hope you find the energy to write more.

10 stars!!!

If I could give this book 10 stars, I would. This is by far THE best self-development book that I've ever had the pleasure of listening to (and I've read/listened to a lot)! Everyone, regardless of whether you think you engage in emotional outsourcing or not, will benefit from this book. I now refer it to all my patients because Ms. Albina does such an excellent job of succinctly incorporating the best science and practical knowledge that the field has to offer to help individuals learn to develop a sense of self and to change how they show up for themselves. Bravo! An absolutely delightful listen and treasure trove of golden nuggets to learn from!

Helpful

Loved all of the science and compassion in this book! The author does a fantastic job narrating!

You Are Safe, You Are Held, You Are Loved

End Emotional Outsourcing is exactly the book I’ve been waiting for. It is a clear, compassionate, and practical guide for those of us who struggle with people-pleasing, perfectionism, or codependent habits. Beatrice Victoria Albina’s no-nonsense yet deeply nurturing approach blends thought work with somatic practices, making the tools both science-based and body-centered. I loved listening to the audiobook in her own voice, and the print version is full of easy-to-find prompts, exercises, and resources (plus links to bonus downloadable worksheets!). As a longtime fan of the Feminist Wellness Podcast, I appreciate how this book compiles her best insights into a single, accessible resource. It’s already helping me personally, and as a licensed professional counselor, I’ll recommend it to my clients as well.

Albina ends the book with her signature message—“You are safe, you are held, you are loved. And when one of us heals, we help heal the world.” This perfectly captures the heart of her work. Truly a must-read for anyone ready to stop self-abandoning and reclaim their wholeness.

Solid + playful

The author comes through as if she were a loving sister. She explains how it all makes sense and give great introspection questions along the way!